Become The Person You Want to Be

Have you ever wondered how to become the person you want to be? What does that mean, the person you want to be? Aren't we all just who we are or who the person you want to be by default? Aren't we supposed to accept ourselves as we are and be happy? 

Most people look in the mirror and see the physical flaws that they would change in a heartbeat if they could.  You stand there and visualize and imagine the person you want to be which is ever changing itself. We try all sorts of products and techniques to improve our outer appearance. Billions of dollars are spent each year on appearance. But what about a look at who you really are? Yes, deep down!

Understand that that deep down person is the one who is attracting the opposite sex and that is the person that you need to know in order to get what you want in life. This piece by Ani Mal found on Changing Mind(attract the person you want) is an exercise in honesty. Can you handle it?  Do you know deep down who that person you want to be really is?

 

Become the Person You Want to Be

Step 1: Describe your dream mate in extreme detail

  • Who are they in terms of personality and demeanor?
  • What do they look like?
  • Where are some places you would find them spending their time professionally and socially?
  • Why are they single?
  • When would they likely cross paths you?
  • How do they attract you?

Step 2: Describe what your dream mate would be looking for in their dream mate

Now with the same gusto and determination that you did in Step 1, now answer these questions in Step 2 about who your dream mate is looking to attract:

  • Who are they in terms of personality and demeanor?
  • What do they look like?
  • Where are some places you would find them spending their time professionally and socially?
  • Why are they single?
  • When would they likely cross paths you?
  • How do they attract you?

Step 3: Bridge the personal evolution gap

So are you the type of person your dream mate is attracted to? If not, you need to create a game plan on how you can evolve and develop yourself into the type of person who can attract whatever and whoever they want into their life. Some suggestions to get you started:

  • Gauge your personality and demeanor; are they in alignment with what your dream mate is looking for? What are self-development and improvement items you would need to work on to improve in this area?
  • Gauge your appearance -- focus on things you can influence through adaptations in style, health, and fitness habits. For things that you cannot influence through changes in behavior, look for ways to compensate. For example, some women are attracted to men who are larger than them - why is that? Hypothetically, lets say through some analysis it was found that these women typically had this attraction to larger men because they made them feel safe and secure. If a man isn’t larger than his dream mate, and that is what she desires -- are there other ways to make her feel safe and secure?
  • Are your hobbies and interests in alignment with what your dream mate is interested in?

Are You Ready To Be the Person You Want To Be?

Some of these may be difficult to answer at first but let them linger on your mind for a while. Re-read your answers a few times and really be honest with yourself. Share them with a friend to get some feedback if you want but don't change any answer unless you really want to because these responses will help you become the person you want to be and attract the person you want to attract into your life.


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