Become The Person You Want to Be

February 6, 2012 By Leave a Comment

Become the person you want to be...

Have you ever wondered how to become the person you want to be? What does that mean, the person you want to be? Aren’t we all just who we are? Aren’t we supposed to accept ourselves as we are and be happy? 

Most people look in the mirror and see the physical flaws that they would change in a heartbeat if they could. We try all sorts of products and techniques to improve our outer appearance. Billions of dollars are spent each year on appearance. But what about a look at who you really are? Yes, deep down!

Understand that deep down person is the one who is attracting the opposite sex and that is the person that you need to know in order to get what you want in life. This piece by Ani Mal found on Changing Minds is an exercise in honesty. Can you handle it?

Become the Person You Want to Be

Step 1: Describe your dream mate in extreme detail

  • Who are they in terms of personality and demeanor?
  • What do they look like?
  • Where are some places you would find them spending their time professionally and socially?
  • Why are they single?
  • When would they likely cross paths you?
  • How do they attract you?

Step 2: Describe what your dream mate would be looking for in their dream mate

Now with the same gusto and determination that you did in Step 1, now answer these questions in Step 2 about who your dream mate is looking to attract:

  • Who are they in terms of personality and demeanor?
  • What do they look like?
  • Where are some places you would find them spending their time professionally and socially?
  • Why are they single?
  • When would they likely cross paths you?
  • How do they attract you?

Step 3: Bridge the personal evolution gap

So are you the type of person your dream mate is attracted to? If not, you need to create a game plan on how you can evolve and develop yourself into the type of person who can attract whatever and whoever they want into their life. Some suggestions to get you started:

  • Gauge your personality and demeanor; are they in alignment with what your dream mate is looking for? What are self-development and improvement items you would need to work on to improve in this area?
  • Gauge your appearance — focus on things you can influence through adaptations in style, health, and fitness habits. For things that you cannot influence through changes in behavior, look for ways to compensate. For example, some women are attracted to men who are larger than them – why is that? Hypothetically, lets say through some analysis it was found that these women typically had this attraction to larger men because they made them feel safe and secure. If a man isn’t larger than his dream mate, and that is what she desires — are there other ways to make her feel safe and secure?
  • Are your hobbies and interests in alignment with what your dream mate is interested in?
Some of these may be difficult to answer at first but let them linger on your mind for a while. Re-read your answers a few times and really be honest with yourself. Share them with a friend to get some feedback if you want but don’t change any answer unless you really want to because these responses will help you become the person you want to be and attract the person you really want to attract into your life.
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Learn Hypnosis: Seduction Secrets – The Secret Source of Most High Level Seduction Tactics

January 2, 2012 By Leave a Comment

 

By the way, How does this relate to hypnosis training?

Very Nicely Actually.

You see all seduction, all dating rituals, all “forms” of attraction are inherently hypnotic. The fact that we don’t “apply” the word or term “hypnosis” to it is irrelevant.

Seduction IS hypnosis.

Hypnosis IS a form of seduction.

I don’t make the rules I just report them.

This particular video is safely tucked away in a really cool new conversational hypnosis training website at http://www.stealth1.secrets-101.com

The owner has about 30 FREE Hypnosis Videos that he’s put together that you might want to check out. Some of them Are Really Good.

Others are just plain outstanding!

Now… On to our regularly scheduled hypnosis post.

There is a fundamental Rule of persuasion,

well actually it’s a fundamental rule that governs pretty much any form of human interaction.

The Things We Create Have The Most Power and Influence Over Us!

Seriously, this principle is so powerful and so pervasive, yet so completely overlooked, that it boggles my mind how easy it actually is to hypnotize people without them knowing by simply doing back to them what they are projecting at you.

This is why I spend so much time studying seduction materials...

They give us a true, real-world understanding of hypnotic principles and hypnotic operators that most people who, as bias of their “clinical” or “classical” training. Simply would not pay attention to.

The truth is the most seduction techniques are based in the courtship behaviors that “women” use to attract men to them in the first place.

Now the beautiful part for those interested in attracting the opposite sex, dating and seduction as well as for those looking for “less than sensual” applications of covert and conversational hypnosis is simply this.

Your subjects are most likely blissfully unaware that they are telling you exactly how to hypnotize them into doing what you want.  Just by the very act of how they treat you.

If, of course, you have enough “situational awareness” to recognize what is actually happening.

This all can be distilled back down to the NLP based principle of matching and mirroring and pacing and leading. Which are the primary tenets of most Ericksonian based hypnosis and NLP courses.

Unfortunately for our purposes. While the disciplines of NLP and Ericksonian hypnosis are wonderful for teaching us “about” the principles and of course giving them fancy names.

They don’t help us much out in the real world beyond basic therapy applications.

“yawn” … er I mean…  therapy is okay, but…

How does it really help me get money?

More Dates, etc.

Better Relationships, Even… Dare I say it…

More Sex?

If any of the above mentioned “basic human desires” sounded appealing I’d stay away from the more classical (and somewhat impractical) approaches to learning hypnosis and/or hypnosis training.

You are probably better off trying out something like David Van Arrick’s  S.T.E.A.L.T.H. Hypnosis

David Just Added A new FREE Public Level  with Over Thirty FREE Videos That anyone who wants to learn hypnosis online can log in to and watch.

If you are looking for hypnosis training and conversational hypnosis skills that work in the real world, that are fast, easy to use and fun to learn.

Check Out David’s new Site – I thought it was really cool… but then again. I’m a little biased.

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Proven Persuasion Techniques Used in Conversational Hypnosis

December 1, 2011 By Leave a Comment

 

Proven persuasion techniques used in conversational hypnosis

I came across this great list of proven persuasion techniques used in conversational hypnosis and I was sure many of you would enjoy them. They are very straightforward and I’ve only selected a few to highlight today but even if you just choose one or two you can really get good at, you’ll notice changes in the way others respond to you. So, here are some of the 30 proven persuasion techniques used in conversational hypnosis, found on Changing Minds.org that you can use to be more persuasive. 

“Whether we realize it or not, we use persuasive techniques every day to get the things we want by influencing others. While it may seem like some people are born to charm their way through life, persuading others with an enviable ease, the whole shebang at its heart is a science — something that anyone can learn to master with enough practice. If you’re looking to brush up your persuasion skills, whether to get your foot in the door at a business, sell a product, or even get a promotion, here are some tricks and tips that can help give you that desirable silver tongue. Backed up by loads of social science research, these techniques are sure to give you an edge in any negotiation or debate.

Be the first to give

Reciprocity is a powerful force in our society and one that can be used to sway others. Doing a favor for someone you want to persuade can help to put them in your debt, and may make them more willing to help you out in the future. One study found that waiters who gave diners mints before they placed the bill on the table got consistently more tips than those who didn’t.

Admit your weaknesses

When others see you as being more trustworthy, they’ll be much more likely to go along with what you’re trying to persuade them to do, whether it’s hire you or buy what you’re selling. It may sound counter-intuitive, but studies have confirmed the validity of admitting weakness. One such study sent out identical resumes with different cover letters, with one of the letters admitting a weakness. The honest cover letter-resume combo received many more call backs than the other which focused only on the positives.

Highlight not only what others have to gain, but also what they have to lose

Most people who are looking for a job highlight only what employers have to gain by hiring them, but research supports the importance of also pointing out what others stand to lose in a deal. Potential losses actually create a bigger impact than potential gains in the decision-making process, so no matter what you’re trying to convince others to do, show both sides of the coin.

Showcase the reactions of others

Humans are highly social animals, and we often make decisions based on the actions and beliefs of others. For instance, hotel guests are more likely to reuse their towels if they are shown a message stating that many others are already doing this, rather than one that promotes the environmental aspects of reuse alone. For those in the working world, testimonials and recommendations can be powerful factors in helping others to make decisions.

Find common ground

Likeability is often a key factor in winning people over and studies have shown time and again that one of the key factors in influencing how much a person likes another is how many similarities they share. So if you’re seeking to persuade, take time to find out about the other person’s interests and determine what common ground you two may share.

Get a foot in the door

Sometimes effectively persuading someone comes in baby steps, and getting them to stay yes to something small can lead to a greater chance that they’ll be on board with a larger idea in the future. A study on this phenomenon found that homeowners who agreed to place a small sign in their windows asking drivers to slow down were much more likely to agree to put a larger, more obtrusive sign in their yards later on than those who were not asked to display the smaller sign.

Smile

You’re not likely to influence anyone unless you have a smile on your face, but that smile has to be authentic. Humans are masters at detecting a fake smile. A genuine smile makes you more likeable, trustworthy, and ultimately more successful at convincing others.

Keep things simple

Want your writing and speech to be the most persuasive? Keep it simple. Studies have shown that writing is much more persuasive when penned at the eighth grade level, even with those who are capable of understanding much more complex language. Simplicity makes things easy to understand and easy to remember, and is a highly effective tool in getting your way.

Focus on the positive

Even if there are negative aspects of what you’re trying to persuade others to do, spinning these elements as positive helps create a more overall positive view. Take this study as an example. Researchers created three different ads, one playing up a restaurant’s cozy atmosphere, one simply advertising the restaurant but mentioning its lack of parking spaces, and one combing both the cozy aspect and the lack of parking. The third was the most positively viewed, as the participants felt the lack of parking made the restaurant even cozier.

Who are you trying to influence or persuade? What changes are you looking for? Only you can answer those questions and if you really want results you can’t go wrong with these proven persuasion techniques used in conversational hypnosis. 

 

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Covert Hypnosis is Only One Form of Persuasion

October 24, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Covert hypnosis is only one form of persuasion. There are many ways to use the sound of your voice, body language, specific words,  touch, and appearance to persuade others to follow your thinking and do what you suggest. The art and science (and it is both) of persuasion calls upon many skills and resources. The article featured today found on ehow.com shows that covert hypnosis is only one form of persuasion that you can learn to bring more confidence and success to your life and to the lives of others.

Covert hypnosis is only one form of persuasion. Public speaking uses several types of persuasion techniques.

 

Getting Someone to Agree With You

“Being able to be persuasive is a skill that is important in the working world and can help you in your personal relationships as well. Persuasiveness is the ability to make someone else agree with what you are saying, whether they are agreeing that a certain product is a good investment or they are agreeing with a personal belief you have.”

“The famous Greek philosopher Aristotle said there are three things you must use to be persuasive: ethos, pathos and logos. Ethos uses trust to convince someone, pathos appeals to a person’s emotions, and logos uses evidence and logic as a means to persuade someone.”

Verbal Techniques

“When you are trying to persuade someone of something, you must talk to them to get them to see your point. There are many verbal techniques you can use to make your point of view seem right and appealing. For instance, using big words makes you seem knowledgeable and therefore right. Other verbal techniques include using a loud, convincing voice, repeating certain phrases or words, interrupting the other person and making sure you get the last word.”

Physical Techniques

“Although you can’t use physical action to make someone listen to your point, you can use subtle physical techniques to persuade someone. For example, standing on a podium when delivering a message makes you seem tall and authoritative, and people are more apt to be persuaded by your words. Other physical techniques include using wide hand gestures or looking people directly in the eyes to establish trust.”

Combination Techniques

“The most effective way to persuade your audience is to use a combination of verbal and physical techniques. The next time you watch a powerful figure deliver a speech, notice how they combine physical gestures along with words to really get their point across. When you are trying to convince someone of your point, use an authoritative tone and convincing words and look them in the eye as you talk.”

Other Techniques

“Although verbal and physical techniques are the main techniques people use to be persuasive, there are other factors that play into how persuasive you are. Another way to be persuasive is using your personal appearance. Someone who is dressed in a suit and tie is more persuasive than someone in casual clothes because his appearance makes him look more credible. Your general stubbornness is also an attribute in being persuasive because if you refuse to give up, you are more likely to succeed in persuading someone of something.”

Persuasion isn’t an “all or nothing” endeavor either, it sometimes comes in stages and sometimes people will agree with you on one subject but not on another. The article mentions that your level of determination can be a factor as well as your confidence in yourself, this is very true. If you try a technique and it doesn’t work right away don’t lose confidence, project it! You’ll notice the difference in others reactions to you immediately and because covert hypnosis is only one form of persuasion, make sure you are aware of and integrating all possible and appropriate techniques for your purpose.

Have you begun using covert hypnosis techniques? What is holding you back?

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Conversational Hypnosis Tips To Take You to The Next Level

October 3, 2011 By Leave a Comment

Today I want to share with you some conversational hypnosis tips to take you to the next level of expertise. These five special tips really get to the core of conversational hypnosis and I found them on a site called keys to the mind.com., Nathan Thomas writes that each of these tips has the potential to increase your effectiveness as a hypnotist and can automatically make you more persuasive than you can imagine. Combine these conversational hypnosis tips to take you to the next level with your own personal knowledge of communication and you will be very successful.

Describe a relaxing scenario to bring someone in touch with your purpose

“Think about the situations in which you already naturally apply these secrets, and imagine all the other places in which you could make the most of them to be more persuasive, and more hypnotic.

Pay attention – because these are really good (if I may say so myself…)”

Make It Easy to Connect With.

“Practical ideas that people can visualize or imagine are 1000 times more powerful than abstract concepts. Relate your suggestions to things that people can easily relate to. Join them in their world, and allow their mind to join the dots, and connect powerfully and emotionally to what you describe.

Think of what kind of life the person you are communicating with lives, and come up with comfortable and frequent ideas that they can easily place within their own experience. We’ll discuss an example on the next tip:”

Make It Powerful

“Depending on what it is you are trying to accomplish, you may benefit more from either everyday images and ideas that people can easily relate too, or powerful and unusual images and reference experiences which stand out and command attention.

For example, if you are using standard hypnosis to help someone relax, an everyday example would be “it’s like you’re just about to fall asleep, and you’re feeling peaceful.”That can be very effective, because people can easily connect to it.

A more outstanding (so to speak) example would be to paint a vivid story of, say, someone arriving on a pacific island, settling into a hammock with a cocktail, and watching the tropical sun set over the beach. This may be harder to relate to, but being more unusual, can be a lot more compelling.”

Go There First!

“This one I cannot emphasize enough! In fact, not doing this is probably the single biggest reason why some people communicate ineffectively, and the hypnosis they try does not work.

Your emotional state effects nearly all levels of your communication, from your body language to your tonality and even your choice of words. This has an extremely powerful impact on the effects of what you say, and how other people interpret it.

If you want someone to feel relaxed, feel relaxed yourself! Simple, yet crucial.”

Pause, Observe, Adapt.

“All people are different, and all people respond to different things. Whether you are trying out an instant induction, a hypnotic language pattern or simply a persuasive story, keep an eye out for signs and responses. If it doesn’t seem to be working – excellent! You’ve just gained valuable information, so don’t panic, just switch tact! With enough persistence, provided you remain congruent and confident, you’ll find a suitable approach for nearly everyone.”

Have a Powerful, Positive Intention

“This one should go without saying, but I’m going to say it anyone. Whether you are doing overt hypnosis or simply interacting in an everyday situation, your intention should be primarily focused on the well being of the person you are communicating with.”

“This will not only alter your body language, but it will help you to relax, and maintain a healthy perspective. Plus, ethical use of these techniques is a huge plus, not just for whoever you are working with, but also for yourself, and the hypnosis / NLP / influence world generally.”

I’d like to say a few words about intention. Positive intention is really important when you are using these techniques, if you decide to cross an ethical, moral line you may initially get what you want but you are damaging your own integrity. If you are suspected of using these methods for anything other than positive purposes you will never be trusted again. That is not the way to use these conversational hypnosis tips to take you to the next level. 

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