Conversational Hypnosis: How to hypnotize anyone just by speaking. Is it really possible to hypnotize someone or any one for that matter just by speaking?
Well the answer to that is a resounding yes.
A better question might be. Can YOU hypnotize anyone just by speaking, let alone using conversational hypnosis?
Can you even really tell if they are hypnotized?
Are they hypnotized in the way you want, and need those, to be hypnotized?
Did you even know you hypnotized that person in the first place?
I could continue to ask a whole bunch more of very provocative and probing questions but I think you are already getting the point here.
Are you not?
How Can You Use Conversational Hypnosis?
If the obvious answer to the very first question is yes. Then HOW do you actually do it. And Do YOU have the ability to do it?
Yes. You do have the ability to do it by virtue of the fact that you are a living breathing human being with a pulse. You see I don’t subscribe to the concept of hypnosis the way most people in the community do.
Nope, Orthodox hypnosis is for sissies, and no, that is not a reference to sissified hypnosis, that’s a different niche entirely.
It’s more a statement of the current state of hypnotic affairs in the orthodox hypnosis community a community that relies on as one of my more controversial mentors put it…weak, sissified, and, neutered technique.
You see the truth about humans is this…They are all asleep.
Metaphorically speaking anyway…
You see the natural state of the average human is simply to move through the world in a state of internally focused awareness.
In a nutshell…
People are more in love and involved with what is going on inside their own heads than they will ever be with what is going on outside of it.
This gives the user of conversational hypnosis tremendous power if he can accomplish a few simple things.
The first thing is to get them out of the trance they are in and into the trance that is most useful to achieving the behaviors you want them to engage in. Seems simple. Sometimes it is.
Sometimes it isn’t by any large the fastest way to make covert and conversational hypnosis easy is to cultivate an understanding of the three Pillars of Covert/Conversational Hypnosis
The ability to do conversational hypnosis has multiple components.
Conversational Hypnosis Components:
We call this the I-3 model in the Killer Influence, covert conversational hypnosis system I teach.
If you don’t have control of these three things your power as a conversational hypnotist drops dramatically.
A.Identity – You need to know who you are, what your skill sets are, your attributes and of course you must know what the outcome is that you want to achieve, and if necessary that the sub outcomes are that naturally lead to the achievement of your overall goal.
B.Intelligence: This is the area where people are the weakest. If you master this area you are practically unstoppable as a covert or conversational hypnotist
a.Intelligence as we define it has nothing to do with how smart you are, or your IQ score
b.It has everything to do with your ability to gather, calibrate and derive useful information from your subject
C. Influence : influence as we discuss it here simply means the tools, tactics, strategies and techniques that allow you to make manage the information about the subject and environment . In other words to know what to do, when to do it and of course HOW to do covert and conversational hypnosis.
We have several formulas for covert hypnosis and conversational hypnosis that we teach. You can use a simple
AIDA Style format that is familiar to many marketers and copy writers.
AIDA Stands for Attention – Interest- Desire- Action. We would add a couple extra A’s into that formula such as Amplify, And Anchor.
Attention stage teaches you to get them out of their head and into the world. To move your subject or target from an internally aware state
(dissociated) to an externally aware state ( associated) only when the subject is fully associated can we really do powerful conversational hypnosis.
Getting someone from a dissociated state to an associated one is as simple as asking a basic question like Do you know what time it is? Or how is your day going?
Very simple, changes their focus of attention from Internal to External.
Now you can move to stage two… Interest.
Now you have to do something that engages their interest something they want to interact with you about.
Certain kinds of hypnotic questions are very good for this. They also allow you subtly manipulate the direction of the conversation while letting your subject do most of the talking.
Very good for dating, attraction and seduction scenarios because the longer a person talks to you about something that they are interested in. The more hypnotically charismatic YOU become.
This is a very common scenario when a man and a woman go out on a date. The guy spends all night answering the woman’s questions, talking about himself and by the end of the night his attraction to her has quadrupled.
( Unfortunately for our hapless hero. He also managed to bore the pants/dress of the young lady playing the question game)
Here is a key principle you need to understand. There are four pillars of irresistible hypnotic influence. Master them and the world is yours. One of those pillars is known as “Authority” or more precisely The Authority principle.
We don’t have time to go into the four pillars here. But just understand this. Being the authority makes other people who see you that way highly suggestible to you.
Asking Questions gives you the unconscious position of authority in the other persons mind when they are answering those questions.
Do the math amigo.
Hypnotic Questioning is an entire method of influence and conversational hypnosis unto itself. Most people don’t even realize it exists. They are all still stuck on
Ericksonian Confusion Patterns, Double binds and embedded commands. The best stuff never calls attention to itself.
The very fact that you probably know what I am talking about indicates just how much attention these particular techniques get. Couple that with the fact that most people simply don’t do it very well anyway.
The best stuff is simple. Foundational and universal. Meaning it works well everywhere.
This article is getting long so let’s finish up the AIDA Formula Real Quick.
We covered Attention and Interest
Now let’s talk about Desire.
This of course is where what you want and what your subject wants converge. People will do just about anything you want them to if you show them how it will get them something they really want. The key word of course being “Really Want”.
In sales and marketing this could be the pain or problem they are having and want to make go away.
When you effectively link what you want them to do with what they already want at a deep level. People will practically do anything you tell them to. If you press those buttons properly.
The best way to achieve this is through stimulating emotional arousal in your subject. Emotions automatically bypass the critical factor of the Subconscious mind and all you change the perceptual filters toward what you want them to do.
Humans intuitively understand this concept by always making sure someone is in a good mood before making a request for something.
Don’t lie to me, we all did it as kids, Waited till mom or dad was in a good mood before we asked for that toy or to borrow the car.
Moods matter. Especially from a conversational hypnosis perspective.
We also want to amplify those emotional states and link them to us. That way we become emotionally associated to the positive actions we want them to take.
The last letter in our covert conversational hypnosis formula is Action.
You must tell them very clearly, or demonstrate very clearly what you want them to do next and then you have to give them the autonomy to do it.
In our system of Easy covert conversational hypnosis, we call this “the Illusion of Control” this is where we give our subject complete freedom to choose any of the choices we’ve given them. The end result of course is…
All roads lead to doing what we want them to do, or simply following our instructions. Either way works for us.
Now it stands without saying that if you’re going to engage in conversational hypnosis that you always go for a win/win for both you and your subjects. That allows you to tap into the most powerful trance inducer there is.
Well that’s it in a nutshell for the AIDA conversational hypnosis model. The best place to start learning how to apply the principles of Covert Conversational Hypnosis is my top secret STEALTH Conversational Hypnosis Crash Course.
It’s the simplest and easiest way to hypnotize anyone to do what you want in just minutes, without them even knowing it.
That’s it for now.
Trance the World and Take Names.
Your Loyal Friend and Hypnosis Coach
David Van Arrick
aka “The Master”